Dating Do's and Don'ts/ Red Flags and Appreciations

Last Tuesday at my After Work Singles Mixer I had the men and women give me their list of good and bad things to do. Below is the list they all came up with and I thought I'd share and see if you thought they missed anything.

Red Flags/Don’ts from the Men
1.Smoking
2.Chewing gum
3.Discussing past dates
4.Bad manners, eating with your mouth full.
5.Too much makeup
6.Bad grammar
7.Bringing kids on date
8.Asking to borrow money
9.Drinking too much
10 No interests
11 Nails bitten all the way down
12 Nervous and insecure
13 Talks about marriage on the first date
14 Preoccupied/looking bored
15 Late
16 Ordering the most expensive thing on the menu
17 Ordering something to go for the kids
18 Drug addictions
19 Large tattoos, tramp stamps
20 Vulgarities
21 Being demanding
22 Purging in bathroom
23 Being misleading/dishonest/misrepresenting herself
24 Audible flatulence
25 Flirts with other men while on the date
26 Gaudy oversized jewelry
27 Too much perfume
28 Sadism
29 Excessive piercings
30 High maintenance
31 Lack of knowledge or comfort of the human body and sexuality


Things that men appreciate
1.Making out on first date
2.Honesty, no games
3.Good conversationalist
4.Good hygiene
5.Intelligent
6.Good grooming
7.Offers to split the bill
8.Physical fitness
9.On time
10 Responsive
11 Some education
12 Wide varieties of interests
13 Emotionally stable
14 Financially responsible
15 Carries own condoms
16 Vitality and energetic
17 Adventurous
18 Fidelity
19 Tasteful attire
20 Appreciative and thankful
21 Compatible interests

Red Flags/Don’ts for Men
1.Guys that don’t pay attention to us when we go out.
2.Guys that don’t offer to get a drink or notice our needs.
3.Guys who don’t get it (read body language)
4.Men with big egos-all they do is talk about themselves.
5.Men who are controlling.
6.Men who are manipulative.
7.Men who are needy, desperate and insecure.
8.Men with poor hygiene—(doesn’t take care of himself.)
9.Too competitive.
10 Addictions
11 Anger issues
12 Flirting with other women while with us
13 Tries TOO hard
14 Men who ask us out then don’t make all the arrangements.
15 Know it alls.
16 Men who treat us like a trophy.
17 Men who “assume” they know what we want, know, think, feel
18 Smoking if we are nonsmokers
19 Ring lines
20 Cheating, lying, game playing
21 Standing us up
22 Drinks too much on our date
23 Sends us a text message to cancel the date


Things Women Appreciate
1.A man that listens
2.Honest
3.Compliments us
4.Good sense of humor
5.Is a gentleman
6.Self confidence
7.A good cook
8.Good grooming
9.Considerate and thoughtful
10 Good follow through
11 Can lose at a game and not flip his lid
12 Has good boundaries
13 Articulate
14 Knowledgeable on a wide variety of topics
15 Sincere
16 Communicative
17 Sports lover, but not obsessed
18 Wants to spend time with me
19 Keeps in touch, but not over bearing
20 Romantic, surprises us with candy and flowers
21 Gets out and pumps gas if we are in my car
22 Opens car doors

What do YOU think...did they hit everything??

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